During a video call with Jane Fonda, the pop artist said they had been carrying on with their life “for others.”
The 28-year-old pop star as of late came out as non-binary, and has now said they found their sex character subsequent to acknowledging they didn’t find a way into the “box” they believed they were being constrained into by “the patriarchy”.
“If I had listened to the patriarchy, my life would have never changed, my pronouns would have never changed.” the pop singer, started. “I probably would have been married to a man with kids doing the thing that I was raised to believe that I should do.”
“After years of living my life for other people, trying to make myself smaller for the patriarchy – they run the industry, they are at the center of everything. When I realized that, I thought, ‘What are the ways that the patriarchy has been holding me back?’ And for me, it was putting me in a box telling, ‘You are a female, this is what you’re supposed to like, this is what you’re supposed to do, don’t dream bigger and don’t speak louder. That didn’t vibe for me because I’m too outspoken for that.”
“I feel like the reason why that happened was because I was ignoring my truth, and I was suppressing who I really am in order to please stylists or team members or this or that, or even fans that wanted me to be the sexy, feminine pop star in the leotard and look a certain way, you know?” she explained.
“Over the past year-and-a-half, I’ve been doing some healing and self-reflective work. And through this work, I’ve had the revelation that I identify as non-binary,” she further explained. “With that said, I’ll be officially changing my pronouns to they/them. I feel that this best represents the fluidity I feel in my gender expression and allows me to feel most authentic and true to the person I both know I am, and am still discovering.”
Last week Demi came out as non-binary during her new podcast, “4D with Demi Lovato.”
Lovato also requested fans to “find more compassion’ and ’empathy for others.”
She stated that “If you’re having a hard time finding that towards others, go within yourself, find it within yourself so you can find it for others because that’s what will bring us together is that unity.”
The pop star continued: “Remembering that even though we are individuals, we are one, and when we start excluding people, that are when things get really hateful and dangerous.”
Lovato went onto encourage fans to ‘keep living in your truths,’ and sent ‘so much love’ to those who are still struggling to come to terms with their identity.
In a Twitter thread to go with the video, she added: “Every day we wake up, we are given another opportunity & chance to be who we want and wish to be.”
“I’ve spent the majority of my life growing in front of all of you… you’ve seen the good, the bad, & everything in between.”
“Not only has my life been a journey for myself, I was also living for those on the other side of the cameras.”
“Today is a day I’m so happy to share more of my life with you all – I am proud to let you know that I identify as non-binary & will officially be changing my pronouns to they/them moving forward.”
“This has come after a lot of healing and self-reflective work. I’m still learning & coming into myself, & I don’t claim to be an expert or a spokesperson. Sharing this with you now opens another level of vulnerability for me.”
“I’m doing this for those out there that haven’t been able to share who they truly are with their loved ones. Please keep living in your truths & know I am sending so much love your way xox.”